In my experience there is another alternative in this situation, sometimes sought and sometimes offered- and figuring out which is actually desired by the "down" person from the "wanna help" person can be tricky, and/or explosive.Advice; problem solving. "I'm stuck. I've got this problem." "Well. You might try doing this, to solve the problem." "Why can't you just shut up and share? Why do you always have try to solve my problems??" "um...." :-) I seem to recall a recent dream of yours in this regard.